We've been in a deep freeze with last few days feeling like -22 C (warming up today!) to -28 C overnights at home and -34 C at the cottage.
D just called and said he thinks for the first time in his driving life, the entire windshield washer system, tank and all, had frozen over and had a hairy drive to work because of it. It hadn't started working yet when he got to work. Normally if it was just the nozzle by the wipers, it kicks in after 10 min of driving. And we have de-icing spray for that.
We will be adding winter windshield fluid to our shopping list. And should it look like it is happening again, he will be turning around home and taking my car (garage) instead.
Since we are on the topic of cold weather, I'll use this opportunity to write about dressing for warmth, something most of us Canadians know a thing or two about.
It never fails to surprise me what people wear in the winter. We like to layer so that heat can be trapped and held while letting moisture dissipate. To achieve that, you need to layer with breathable fabrics -- Not Cotton, which will hold moisture and take away heat.
The best base layers (my opinion) use wool, usually merino, which isn't itchy and is lightweight. They come tight or snug to the body. The higher the % of wool, the warmer. Some systems like Icebreaker (current favourite) use a number weight system. The higher the number, the heavier the weight of wool, the warmer. Some brands like Helly Hansen makes things simple by naming their baselayer system "cool, warm, dry". Big names like Under Armour use synthetics as their material of choice.
A good base or mid layer won't come cheap. You will be able to find lessor priced alternative at a hardware store, a camping store, a department store. The main difference I've found is the breathability.
If you try on a jacket that is a waterproof shell for example and pretty much start feeling like you are going to sweat, it isn't very breathable, no matter what the label says. Don't think that it will be fine because you are using it in the cold. It will trap moisture and you'll get cold. If you are just looking for something to cover you up while working around the yard, it will probably be fine.
But if you are thinking of hiking or skiing or anything extended, then I would encourage you to invest in something better -- Try getting a deal on last year's model of a better brand. And if you are not picky about colour, you might just get lucky. My first set of Helly Hansen baselayer is a bright salmon colour!
I agree that some brands aren't worth the money but many are well known because of the research they've put into developing their products for real world use. So don't discount them because you don't wish to be known as someone who is just label flashing. When you read the histories of how some of the best gear companies in the world came to be, you'll often find that the company was developed to fill a very real need -- To survive in some of the harshest conditions on earth.
Thursday, January 24, 2013
Tuesday, January 22, 2013
Michigan Housing
A friend of D's who resides in Michigan visited us over the the weekend. He (Canadian) told us how frustrated they were with the housing market over there. His girlfriend bought her house at the height of the market and now is "underwater". So she is short selling her house and they have been trying hard to find a new house together.
It is difficult for her to go that route as she has never missed a payment, has a good job, is educated but realized she will never get her money back for the house. Because of the various government programs available, the bank would get mostly compensated for the shortfall in sale price. She has gotten and accepted an offer and is just waiting for the bank to do their thing.
For the last 6 months they have been searching for a suitable house. First thing is that they cannot find a smaller (2000 sq ft) house to buy in an area they would consider nice and safe. Apparently you can buy houses in Detroit for 25K! But you and your stuff wouldn't last 24 hrs there... So the going rate is minimum 450K for something decent.
The other issue in their search has to do with quality of construction and building codes. Shockingly what we consider "proper insulation" and "R values" isn't done there, just felt paper?! Northern Michigan gets pretty cold so I immediately asked how much must heating cost? The answer was high. And we are talking about homes in a reasonable area, minimum 3000 sq ft, 500+K.
To top it off, he was shocked at how many new subdivisions were still built with well and septic but because of location (desirable school districts), property taxes were 9+K/yr. What is the government doing with all those tax dollars when they aren't providing many services? Houses in those areas don't come up for sale often. And when they do, they sell within a day.
Building lots in a good area are selling for 175+K with water and sewer at the street. So if you were to go and build yourself a custom house, with proper insulation etc, even a small house would end up in the 500K range easily, assuming you can find a good builder.
They have recently put a cash offer on a home (foreclosure) and am playing the waiting game. No guarantees and it could and does take months. Plus any house they get, they will eventually be spending a lot of money to upgrade stuff like insulation, windows etc (lucky our friend has construction knowledge). They are prepared to rent should the timing of the buy and sell not match (not likely).
It is difficult for her to go that route as she has never missed a payment, has a good job, is educated but realized she will never get her money back for the house. Because of the various government programs available, the bank would get mostly compensated for the shortfall in sale price. She has gotten and accepted an offer and is just waiting for the bank to do their thing.
For the last 6 months they have been searching for a suitable house. First thing is that they cannot find a smaller (2000 sq ft) house to buy in an area they would consider nice and safe. Apparently you can buy houses in Detroit for 25K! But you and your stuff wouldn't last 24 hrs there... So the going rate is minimum 450K for something decent.
The other issue in their search has to do with quality of construction and building codes. Shockingly what we consider "proper insulation" and "R values" isn't done there, just felt paper?! Northern Michigan gets pretty cold so I immediately asked how much must heating cost? The answer was high. And we are talking about homes in a reasonable area, minimum 3000 sq ft, 500+K.
To top it off, he was shocked at how many new subdivisions were still built with well and septic but because of location (desirable school districts), property taxes were 9+K/yr. What is the government doing with all those tax dollars when they aren't providing many services? Houses in those areas don't come up for sale often. And when they do, they sell within a day.
Building lots in a good area are selling for 175+K with water and sewer at the street. So if you were to go and build yourself a custom house, with proper insulation etc, even a small house would end up in the 500K range easily, assuming you can find a good builder.
They have recently put a cash offer on a home (foreclosure) and am playing the waiting game. No guarantees and it could and does take months. Plus any house they get, they will eventually be spending a lot of money to upgrade stuff like insulation, windows etc (lucky our friend has construction knowledge). They are prepared to rent should the timing of the buy and sell not match (not likely).
Monday, January 21, 2013
2013 Travel
We are one step away from firming up our travel for the year. Crazy I know, as it is only Jan. This year's theme is "more relaxed". No running around to 3 different countries in 2 weeks doing recon work. I'm ready to settle down and enjoy more.
Last year I over did it (using turning 40 as an excuse) and got pretty tired out. Happy but weary. This year will almost (one small exception) be the exact opposite. We will be renting apartments and staying put.
First up will be the Czech Republic (solo trip). My last international flight seat mate (older lady I had to help get up and down) I wrote about last year left such an indelible impression on me, I had to follow through to visit her home country.
One point. Don't get caught like me. Flight sales in Jan tend to be cheaper than in Dec, no matter how convincing their advertising may be. I could have paid $65 less for my flight had I waited a few weeks. Not a huge amount but when optional upgrades to economy comfort class cost $268, it could have gone towards that.
I know nothing about the Czech language so will do some very basic work before I depart. D really wanted to come on this trip because of the beer...But he will not give up his last 10 days worth of skiing and the next trip for beer...
Until I started my research on Prague, I had no idea how much culture there was there. I've already bought a ticket to see a ballet and am tempted to go to the opera as well.
If I get really lucky, I may just be able to avoid a major European snow storm during my transit days. CDG, LHR and AMS are having a "fun" time right now.
Last year I over did it (using turning 40 as an excuse) and got pretty tired out. Happy but weary. This year will almost (one small exception) be the exact opposite. We will be renting apartments and staying put.
First up will be the Czech Republic (solo trip). My last international flight seat mate (older lady I had to help get up and down) I wrote about last year left such an indelible impression on me, I had to follow through to visit her home country.
One point. Don't get caught like me. Flight sales in Jan tend to be cheaper than in Dec, no matter how convincing their advertising may be. I could have paid $65 less for my flight had I waited a few weeks. Not a huge amount but when optional upgrades to economy comfort class cost $268, it could have gone towards that.
I know nothing about the Czech language so will do some very basic work before I depart. D really wanted to come on this trip because of the beer...But he will not give up his last 10 days worth of skiing and the next trip for beer...
Until I started my research on Prague, I had no idea how much culture there was there. I've already bought a ticket to see a ballet and am tempted to go to the opera as well.
If I get really lucky, I may just be able to avoid a major European snow storm during my transit days. CDG, LHR and AMS are having a "fun" time right now.
Sunday, January 20, 2013
Food Update 2
In my haste yesterday I forgot to mention some important observations with respect to our food:
- I find I cannot eat roast beef anymore. The taste is too strong for me (D loves it). It tastes a lot like venison (which I don't prefer). So I lean to ground beef or stewing beef (the colour of them is deep deep red, like a burgundy wine) as cooking it with vegetables, herbs, spices, wine, makes for a more balanced taste for me.
- Love the pork roasts. The taste is so full, quite amazing and the smell while it's cooking is exceedingly yummy. Minimal spices needed for either type of roast, just sea salt and pepper. And the fluid that does come out of the roast is clear and strong.
- Each batch of meat (any kind) tastes different (texture too). Made us realize how accustomed we were to uniform food.
- Roasts come out better with the slow cooker than oven. The meat is leaner and stronger so slow cooking works well and helps prevent premature dryness. As D tends to like his beef rare, he had to get used to using lower temperatures and longer cooking times.
- The fat content of grass fed animals is higher in omega 3 & 6. When we have cooled leftover fat from cooking bacon for example, it can be rinsed off the pan because it is more soluble vs needing to scrape it off with a paper towel or needing hot water to "melt" it. Same with when you get it on your hands, less detergent needed. Neat!
- Despite it being organic, I cannot eat ham roasts whereas I can eat bacon (can go through a pound without breathing hard. D says one day he'd like to try some too...). There is something in the roast that keeps me up at night. It is as if I ate MSG which it doesn't have but there must be some other additive in it that is affecting me. Mind you I get a lot done when I cannot sleep as I'm super alert but it's the next working day that kills me.
- I can't seem to find a middle ground with respect to fish. I love sashimi and deep fried halibut. The in between pan fried fish (any kind) just doesn't do it for me, wild or not.
- There are cuts of meat and kinds of fruit and veggies I cannot get from our delivery service so I'll either go local if organic is not an option or I'll just go for it.
- Our pure food costs are in the $400 - $500/month range.
Saturday, January 19, 2013
Food Update
We've had a month's worth of our new organic grocery service. Long enough to be able to comment on the experience. Overall it has made our lives easier. Much time has been saved and when we do find ourselves at a supermarket, it is only for a small list of things.
Choosing to buy organic pastured meat means we don't need to go back to where the meat is at the grocery store. There is a minimum order so we have extra food in the fridge. The quality and taste speaks for itself. It would be very difficult to go back. Not wishing to eat processed foods means we can bypass most of the middle of the store as well.
With veggies and fruit, we are using the "dirty dozen" and "clean 15" lists as a starting point. We found with our particular service, it was cheaper to buy most organic veggies and fruit at the organic section of the supermarket than through them. And we have also found more choice at the store vs online. So we stopped getting their weekly produce boxes.
Our eating has become simpler and better. Portions have shrunk because we are feeling full faster. Makes paying the extra for better food less pricey. We have also found we don't need to snack much at all -- Higher nutritional quality we believe. We now time our big cooking days around delivery weeks. It has meant better and more consistent lunches for D and I.
When we were out west, it was easier to find good food. British Columbia is known for healthy living so organic supermarkets etc are a dime a dozen. Prices were slightly higher but they always seem to be. Since we've committed to this course, I don't blink at the cost because the taste and how it makes us feel makes it worth it.
This summer, we are looking forward to visiting more farms. I've been compiling a list. It will make for some great weekend drives. I want to buy some pastured poultry. Because of my soy allergy, even organic chickens and turkeys are out because they get fed soy in their feed.
Choosing to buy organic pastured meat means we don't need to go back to where the meat is at the grocery store. There is a minimum order so we have extra food in the fridge. The quality and taste speaks for itself. It would be very difficult to go back. Not wishing to eat processed foods means we can bypass most of the middle of the store as well.
With veggies and fruit, we are using the "dirty dozen" and "clean 15" lists as a starting point. We found with our particular service, it was cheaper to buy most organic veggies and fruit at the organic section of the supermarket than through them. And we have also found more choice at the store vs online. So we stopped getting their weekly produce boxes.
Our eating has become simpler and better. Portions have shrunk because we are feeling full faster. Makes paying the extra for better food less pricey. We have also found we don't need to snack much at all -- Higher nutritional quality we believe. We now time our big cooking days around delivery weeks. It has meant better and more consistent lunches for D and I.
When we were out west, it was easier to find good food. British Columbia is known for healthy living so organic supermarkets etc are a dime a dozen. Prices were slightly higher but they always seem to be. Since we've committed to this course, I don't blink at the cost because the taste and how it makes us feel makes it worth it.
This summer, we are looking forward to visiting more farms. I've been compiling a list. It will make for some great weekend drives. I want to buy some pastured poultry. Because of my soy allergy, even organic chickens and turkeys are out because they get fed soy in their feed.
Thursday, January 17, 2013
Xmas Travel
It's looking like we will be staying put next Christmas. Travelling during the holiday season is wearing. Is this only the 2nd week we've been back?
I've written before about how I didn't really enjoying the transit part of summer European travel (though being in Amalfi and Cinque Terre made up for it). Christmas time is right up there as well.
Too much chaos (there are boarding protocols...), too many people who are not accustomed to travelling (please let the people in the rows ahead of you exit first...), too much time spent waiting for people to empty their pockets of all their metal etc. Don't get me started on how priority boarding kinda goes out the window then gate agents are overwhelmed. I'm sounding like George Clooney in "Up In The Air".
When families travel say once or twice a year at the busiest times and pack everything they own into their suitcases, you are basically putting your faith into a system that is bursting at its seams. We saw many panicked people trying to figure out what to do when their luggage (all those Christmas presents!) or sports equipment did not emerge. A lot of life is a "numbers game" and it is occasionally our turn.
Most of the time I do my best not to check in anything I cannot afford or wish to lose. As we only check in luggage when going west to ski (last time, we are finally organized out there!), it was necessary to remind ourselves of this. Especially having seen commercials for a show about airlines auctioning off lost luggage and what big money it can be.
I brought home enough clothes to fit into a carry on. May not sound like much volume but total retail cost of a ski jacket, ski pants, base layers, 3 new pairs of pants, 1 top and a pair of ski goggles are a couple thousand. None of which I'd care to replace anytime soon.
So we'll travel before and after Christmas. Flights are usually cheaper. Volume is dramatically lower. When you are in it for the long haul, adjusting yearly things a few weeks either way is worth it.
However I reserve the right to suck it up when a really really cool opportunity arises.
I've written before about how I didn't really enjoying the transit part of summer European travel (though being in Amalfi and Cinque Terre made up for it). Christmas time is right up there as well.
Too much chaos (there are boarding protocols...), too many people who are not accustomed to travelling (please let the people in the rows ahead of you exit first...), too much time spent waiting for people to empty their pockets of all their metal etc. Don't get me started on how priority boarding kinda goes out the window then gate agents are overwhelmed. I'm sounding like George Clooney in "Up In The Air".
When families travel say once or twice a year at the busiest times and pack everything they own into their suitcases, you are basically putting your faith into a system that is bursting at its seams. We saw many panicked people trying to figure out what to do when their luggage (all those Christmas presents!) or sports equipment did not emerge. A lot of life is a "numbers game" and it is occasionally our turn.
Most of the time I do my best not to check in anything I cannot afford or wish to lose. As we only check in luggage when going west to ski (last time, we are finally organized out there!), it was necessary to remind ourselves of this. Especially having seen commercials for a show about airlines auctioning off lost luggage and what big money it can be.
I brought home enough clothes to fit into a carry on. May not sound like much volume but total retail cost of a ski jacket, ski pants, base layers, 3 new pairs of pants, 1 top and a pair of ski goggles are a couple thousand. None of which I'd care to replace anytime soon.
So we'll travel before and after Christmas. Flights are usually cheaper. Volume is dramatically lower. When you are in it for the long haul, adjusting yearly things a few weeks either way is worth it.
However I reserve the right to suck it up when a really really cool opportunity arises.
Tuesday, January 15, 2013
The Old Switcheroo
The shifting around of furniture in the upstairs of our house has begun. Back in the fall our goal was to change the layout of things so I could have a better work out area and to maximize use of half of the downstairs for us rather than our occasional guests. There would still be plenty of room for friends in the other half.
Despite living in an old house, we have fairly open spaces. Ceilings are 10 - 11 ft high and the upstairs landing complete with a double door hall closet is the size of a small bedroom. Some time ago, there were 4 bedrooms but the 4th (maid's quarters) was renovated into what is now my walk in closet and ensuite, giving us a 3 bed and bath house.
Our windows are fairly substantial, 8 ft high, so light is ample, contrary to a lot of older homes. We are doing our best to keep those original windows in tip top shape because to replace them would cost a significant percentage of the cost of the house. The moldings around them (wood) are a foot wide. Window coverings cost us a small fortune -- 27.
There are also 2 stair cases. A main curved one and the simple "servant's" one leading to the kitchen. There used to be 3 fireplaces as well. Only one original has survived. The other two were taken out to create a wall for floor to ceiling kitchen cupboards.
By switching our 2nd bedroom with our office, I am able to space out my exercise equipment and desk and create a better sleeping area at the same time. Why did it take 5+ years of living here for us to figure that out??? Even our bedroom feels better with a different reading chair and ottoman.
We are considering not bothering with a new bulb when our projector times out. Instead, going with an LED TV for our movies instead. Smaller footprint and better use of a downstairs space. D has a number of interested buyers for the projector right now but I'm not convinced of spending money on a TV right now. Somewhere down the line we will likely need to buy a new couch to replace one I've own since my single days.
It is so easy to be tempted to move to a modern house that has a more "currently accepted" layout because of how easy it is to visualize placement of furniture. By finding a great solution upstairs, we save ourselves the 100+K it would cost to buy said modern house and helps us realize the potential of our current house.
I guess at the right price, there can exist a "perfect" house. When you are like me, and do not wish to pay for it, then you need to get creative. The upstairs was the easy floor. The downstairs layout will be far more challenging.
Despite living in an old house, we have fairly open spaces. Ceilings are 10 - 11 ft high and the upstairs landing complete with a double door hall closet is the size of a small bedroom. Some time ago, there were 4 bedrooms but the 4th (maid's quarters) was renovated into what is now my walk in closet and ensuite, giving us a 3 bed and bath house.
Our windows are fairly substantial, 8 ft high, so light is ample, contrary to a lot of older homes. We are doing our best to keep those original windows in tip top shape because to replace them would cost a significant percentage of the cost of the house. The moldings around them (wood) are a foot wide. Window coverings cost us a small fortune -- 27.
There are also 2 stair cases. A main curved one and the simple "servant's" one leading to the kitchen. There used to be 3 fireplaces as well. Only one original has survived. The other two were taken out to create a wall for floor to ceiling kitchen cupboards.
By switching our 2nd bedroom with our office, I am able to space out my exercise equipment and desk and create a better sleeping area at the same time. Why did it take 5+ years of living here for us to figure that out??? Even our bedroom feels better with a different reading chair and ottoman.
We are considering not bothering with a new bulb when our projector times out. Instead, going with an LED TV for our movies instead. Smaller footprint and better use of a downstairs space. D has a number of interested buyers for the projector right now but I'm not convinced of spending money on a TV right now. Somewhere down the line we will likely need to buy a new couch to replace one I've own since my single days.
It is so easy to be tempted to move to a modern house that has a more "currently accepted" layout because of how easy it is to visualize placement of furniture. By finding a great solution upstairs, we save ourselves the 100+K it would cost to buy said modern house and helps us realize the potential of our current house.
I guess at the right price, there can exist a "perfect" house. When you are like me, and do not wish to pay for it, then you need to get creative. The upstairs was the easy floor. The downstairs layout will be far more challenging.
Tuesday, January 8, 2013
Humbling Craziness
Don't know if I'm fighting something but I've been feeling a bit out of sorts. Enough to drive into a mini snow bank today when I knew it was there. That's after I managed to fall over a stool at work! It was a slow motion one where I had some time to figure out how to fall "appropriately" and ended up feeling looser afterwards. To top it off, I left a burner on our range on. Luckily D was home.
It's times like these that keep me from ever feeling like I've got the upper hand in anything. How could I not be humbled when I can only stall a standard car going in reverse? D didn't think it was possible. Or how I spent this ski season getting used to new skis and boots and if you could have seen my first couple of runs, you'd think I'd never skied before. We're talking crab arms and pizza legs!
To help balance out the craziness, my ballet class today went well and I didn't limp home. The violin lessons are going pretty good despite the skin on the tips of my fingers peeling off. My sight reading has been a saving grace in many an occasion. No art this semester. We are taking a break from additional driving this winter. The Architect and I tied for the highest mark in the class. D got a very respectable B.
It's a good thing I'm not much of a drinker. And I have some travel to look forward to.
It's times like these that keep me from ever feeling like I've got the upper hand in anything. How could I not be humbled when I can only stall a standard car going in reverse? D didn't think it was possible. Or how I spent this ski season getting used to new skis and boots and if you could have seen my first couple of runs, you'd think I'd never skied before. We're talking crab arms and pizza legs!
To help balance out the craziness, my ballet class today went well and I didn't limp home. The violin lessons are going pretty good despite the skin on the tips of my fingers peeling off. My sight reading has been a saving grace in many an occasion. No art this semester. We are taking a break from additional driving this winter. The Architect and I tied for the highest mark in the class. D got a very respectable B.
It's a good thing I'm not much of a drinker. And I have some travel to look forward to.
Monday, January 7, 2013
Walking & Talking
D and I walk together often -- After dinner, afternoons, weekends. It gives us a chance to catch up with each other as well as work out some stuff that may be occupying our minds. It is something I look forward to. Recent events (before Christmas) had us walking and talking about a few things more serious than usual.
D fluctuates from hitting the ceiling with the amount of agony (crap) he is willing to take on a daily basis from his current department to appreciation of his job. Recently he has acknowledged the type of person he would need to change into in order to continue his current role. Despite receiving numerous accolades for projects done under very difficult circumstances (people), he is not convinced he wants to stay and play in such a toxic environment.
When he told me, my immediate thought was OK, what type of planning do we have to do as I assumed it meant a change of job. I asked him if he felt strong enough about it to choose a job that paid less? He isn't leaving the company but will again be looking to move out of this division even if it means a pay decrease. For what he does, he is at the top of his pay grade which actually overlaps with the next level.
I've said this before -- What we potentially give up are the lifestyle "perks" that comes with his current boss who believes in the work-life balance thing. Previous to this D had decided he was OK with tolerating those particular negative aspects of his work because of it. Even now he still questions his motives.
Recent events have made him reconsider and accept that things are not likely to change there. So adapt or get out. Some people thrive in consistently antagonistic frameworks. Not us -- What a waste of good energy. Much harder to be straightforward and honest but better for everyone involved in the long run. However, I'm not the best judge of what's possible in a corporate environment -- Too idealistic.
D is finding it harder to harder to decompress and I can see what it is doing to my otherwise easy going happy man. From my end, what matters most is his peace of mind. If he is not in a good place, then we aren't in a good place. And for us to move along/forward we both need to be...at least moving in that direction deliberately.
What can be done right now is calculate what it would mean should he accept a job offer that pays at the low end of his pay scale. There is a 30K variance within his pay grade so not a small number. It made sense to see how that would affect our bottom line should it end up as our reality even though D thinks it wouldn't be likely.
In order for us to keep living the way we are, save the amount we do, a 30K drop would mean I would not be getting my "annuity" payment from D until he completes his portion of house mortgage/ski condo mortgage/car loan which currently sits at about 59K with the end being Dec 2015.
In reality, it wouldn't be that big a deal to me. I can accept it. The other differences include annual bonus amount -- Overall percentage would be the same but if based on a lower salary, the net amount will obviously decrease. Ditto with pension calculations and life insurance as D's coverage is based on multiples of his salary.
Part of D's apprehension with bringing this up I think was his worry of my reaction. When he realized I wasn't phased by it, he relaxed. I am more concerned for his (our) mental health than a drop in income. And once we worked through what the numbers would mean, we moved on.
We are far from having to sell anything or drastically change the way we do things because of an income drop. It's a freeing feeling. And even if we did, so what? Our lives would still hardly qualify as suffering by any measure.
He gave notice of his intent to pursue difference opportunities at his year end review. And has his eyes on a couple of other departments. I know he will be strongly competitive when it's interview time. And I believe he won't know what he'll really do until he is actually faced with options.
D fluctuates from hitting the ceiling with the amount of agony (crap) he is willing to take on a daily basis from his current department to appreciation of his job. Recently he has acknowledged the type of person he would need to change into in order to continue his current role. Despite receiving numerous accolades for projects done under very difficult circumstances (people), he is not convinced he wants to stay and play in such a toxic environment.
When he told me, my immediate thought was OK, what type of planning do we have to do as I assumed it meant a change of job. I asked him if he felt strong enough about it to choose a job that paid less? He isn't leaving the company but will again be looking to move out of this division even if it means a pay decrease. For what he does, he is at the top of his pay grade which actually overlaps with the next level.
I've said this before -- What we potentially give up are the lifestyle "perks" that comes with his current boss who believes in the work-life balance thing. Previous to this D had decided he was OK with tolerating those particular negative aspects of his work because of it. Even now he still questions his motives.
Recent events have made him reconsider and accept that things are not likely to change there. So adapt or get out. Some people thrive in consistently antagonistic frameworks. Not us -- What a waste of good energy. Much harder to be straightforward and honest but better for everyone involved in the long run. However, I'm not the best judge of what's possible in a corporate environment -- Too idealistic.
D is finding it harder to harder to decompress and I can see what it is doing to my otherwise easy going happy man. From my end, what matters most is his peace of mind. If he is not in a good place, then we aren't in a good place. And for us to move along/forward we both need to be...at least moving in that direction deliberately.
What can be done right now is calculate what it would mean should he accept a job offer that pays at the low end of his pay scale. There is a 30K variance within his pay grade so not a small number. It made sense to see how that would affect our bottom line should it end up as our reality even though D thinks it wouldn't be likely.
In order for us to keep living the way we are, save the amount we do, a 30K drop would mean I would not be getting my "annuity" payment from D until he completes his portion of house mortgage/ski condo mortgage/car loan which currently sits at about 59K with the end being Dec 2015.
In reality, it wouldn't be that big a deal to me. I can accept it. The other differences include annual bonus amount -- Overall percentage would be the same but if based on a lower salary, the net amount will obviously decrease. Ditto with pension calculations and life insurance as D's coverage is based on multiples of his salary.
Part of D's apprehension with bringing this up I think was his worry of my reaction. When he realized I wasn't phased by it, he relaxed. I am more concerned for his (our) mental health than a drop in income. And once we worked through what the numbers would mean, we moved on.
We are far from having to sell anything or drastically change the way we do things because of an income drop. It's a freeing feeling. And even if we did, so what? Our lives would still hardly qualify as suffering by any measure.
He gave notice of his intent to pursue difference opportunities at his year end review. And has his eyes on a couple of other departments. I know he will be strongly competitive when it's interview time. And I believe he won't know what he'll really do until he is actually faced with options.
Saturday, January 5, 2013
Final Thoughts: Munich Christmas Markets
Remember in May, the big vegetable for sale at all the independent stalls was spargel or white asparagus? Well this time, it was fruit -- Fresh dates, persimmons, lychees from exotic locales. I forgot that you are not supposed to touch anything and got appropriately warned. So it can be hit and miss with the fruit you buy. My second batch of persimmons didn't ripen enough to eat before our trip was over.
I read that there are more than 24 Christmas markets in Munich alone. Many neighbourhoods have their own and some are known for such things as homemade toys, art etc. So you can spend many hours each day walking around to them and discovering new places to return to. Can you believe we managed to not find the one that was located on an island (Praterinsel)!
There were specialty Christmas markets too -- Medieval, Manger, Pink Christmas and Tollwood. The Tollwood Festival was a very special one. When you read the link, you'll understand why. The world can learn from them. We are planning to spend more time there when the opportunity arises again.
In the past we've always looked forward to our Dec trip to the ski condo. We felt that with the snow, the lights, the spirit, it gave us a real sense of Christmas. After spending a week in Munich touring the seemingly endless Christmas markets (and eating many roasted chestnuts), we now have a completely different definition of Christmas spirit whereas being out west gives us the best of winter.
In Munich we didn't see people all loaded up with purchases. Nor did we witness long line ups of people waiting to pay. On our last day we walked along one of the streets that housed very fancy stores (Maxmilianstrasse***) and even they weren't busy. I've been in Rome at Christmas time and cannot say that was the case along Via Del Corso.
Instead we saw people outside enjoying hot food and drinks with friends and family. We saw them strolling through the streets full of joy and being so very present to simple pleasures. In our opinion, a great reminder of what is really important.
(***Incidentally, we saw the single most expensive (non car) item for purchase at the Chopard window. A solitaire for 581K Euro! That window housed 6 rings for sale, all in the six figure range. Almost even more impressive, there were no security guards that we could see.)
I read that there are more than 24 Christmas markets in Munich alone. Many neighbourhoods have their own and some are known for such things as homemade toys, art etc. So you can spend many hours each day walking around to them and discovering new places to return to. Can you believe we managed to not find the one that was located on an island (Praterinsel)!
There were specialty Christmas markets too -- Medieval, Manger, Pink Christmas and Tollwood. The Tollwood Festival was a very special one. When you read the link, you'll understand why. The world can learn from them. We are planning to spend more time there when the opportunity arises again.
In the past we've always looked forward to our Dec trip to the ski condo. We felt that with the snow, the lights, the spirit, it gave us a real sense of Christmas. After spending a week in Munich touring the seemingly endless Christmas markets (and eating many roasted chestnuts), we now have a completely different definition of Christmas spirit whereas being out west gives us the best of winter.
In Munich we didn't see people all loaded up with purchases. Nor did we witness long line ups of people waiting to pay. On our last day we walked along one of the streets that housed very fancy stores (Maxmilianstrasse***) and even they weren't busy. I've been in Rome at Christmas time and cannot say that was the case along Via Del Corso.
Instead we saw people outside enjoying hot food and drinks with friends and family. We saw them strolling through the streets full of joy and being so very present to simple pleasures. In our opinion, a great reminder of what is really important.
(***Incidentally, we saw the single most expensive (non car) item for purchase at the Chopard window. A solitaire for 581K Euro! That window housed 6 rings for sale, all in the six figure range. Almost even more impressive, there were no security guards that we could see.)
Monday, December 31, 2012
Happy Trees & Happy New Year
I am ending the year stronger than last and am excited for the year to come.
Wishing You All a Healthy, Happy and Joyous New Year!
Leaving you with some Winter Inspiration. It has been a great snow season up here.
Sunday, December 30, 2012
More Munich Food & Drink
Go to the Christmas market for the food. Who knew it was going to be an all out street food festival? I love strolling and eating and being drawn to enticing smells. We only ate at a restaurant 4 times that week and I had originally thought it would be mostly if not all restaurant meals like it was in May. No way.
You can eat all 3 courses easily pretty much everywhere. There were so many different types of wurst and beef sandwiches but if you go, try the potato pancakes. They were the best hash browns I've ever had (fyi has egg in it and they serve it with apple sauce(?) or tzatziki). And the waffles were light as air.
Didn't take to the gingerbread cookies (Lebkuchen). They were good and soft but I prefer a cookie with more ginger, enough to warm you up inside. Don't leave without trying a Splitterball -- A giant dark chocolate covered homemade marshmallow with waffle pieces inside. Quite sweet but addictive!
And don't worry if you didn't like the Gluhwein. There were at least 5 more colourful alternatives -- Burgundy, orange, clear (looked like a mojito), purple etc. Don't ask me their names. The only one I know is "Eierlikoer" or German egg nog. It is not as thick as what I am used to at home but had far more depth of flavour, likely due to the vodka and brandy in it -- No rum.
And the best part? They served it from what looked like a frozen drink dispenser but was medium warm, in a white wine glass topped with whipped cream! I'm supposed to be off eggs and dairy but I cheated and took 3 gulps. It tasted wonderful. Because the dispenser was sealed, the alcohol stayed in and was the most potent drink I had that week. Ended up getting a hive but was so worth it.
You can eat all 3 courses easily pretty much everywhere. There were so many different types of wurst and beef sandwiches but if you go, try the potato pancakes. They were the best hash browns I've ever had (fyi has egg in it and they serve it with apple sauce(?) or tzatziki). And the waffles were light as air.
Didn't take to the gingerbread cookies (Lebkuchen). They were good and soft but I prefer a cookie with more ginger, enough to warm you up inside. Don't leave without trying a Splitterball -- A giant dark chocolate covered homemade marshmallow with waffle pieces inside. Quite sweet but addictive!
And don't worry if you didn't like the Gluhwein. There were at least 5 more colourful alternatives -- Burgundy, orange, clear (looked like a mojito), purple etc. Don't ask me their names. The only one I know is "Eierlikoer" or German egg nog. It is not as thick as what I am used to at home but had far more depth of flavour, likely due to the vodka and brandy in it -- No rum.
And the best part? They served it from what looked like a frozen drink dispenser but was medium warm, in a white wine glass topped with whipped cream! I'm supposed to be off eggs and dairy but I cheated and took 3 gulps. It tasted wonderful. Because the dispenser was sealed, the alcohol stayed in and was the most potent drink I had that week. Ended up getting a hive but was so worth it.
Thursday, December 27, 2012
Update From The Mountain
I have more to say about Munich but we are dealing with Internet issues (we are using a neighbour's connection for the time being) and am waiting for a technician to arrive. Not impressed as this is the 3rd time in the last year we've had issues.
They are the only game on the mountain and for some reason we are getting "kicked out" by the system when they are doing maintenance on other accounts. I don't know what's really going on. D needs Internet to work remote.
In other news, remember how D's bonus last year ended up getting fully taxed because the paperwork to get it sheltered didn't get confirmed properly? It has been corrected for this year so we are set. D's yearly review went really well and because his performance "rating" went up, so did his bonus by 30%. He calls it blood money as this was the toughest year he's ever had in his career.
Since the money is going to be sheltered, the tax refund will serve as additional savings to be sheltered again. We've also decided to stop saving money in a non registered account for the time being and concentrate on maxing out D's tax sheltered account as he has a lot more unused room than I do.
Visibility on the ski hill is not so good today due to low clouds so I'm staying put to deal with administrative stuff while D is out giving it a go anyway -- Not surprised. He's much more intrepid than I. It's a busy day as many people are still off for the holidays as kids won't be going back to school until Jan 7th.
They are the only game on the mountain and for some reason we are getting "kicked out" by the system when they are doing maintenance on other accounts. I don't know what's really going on. D needs Internet to work remote.
In other news, remember how D's bonus last year ended up getting fully taxed because the paperwork to get it sheltered didn't get confirmed properly? It has been corrected for this year so we are set. D's yearly review went really well and because his performance "rating" went up, so did his bonus by 30%. He calls it blood money as this was the toughest year he's ever had in his career.
Since the money is going to be sheltered, the tax refund will serve as additional savings to be sheltered again. We've also decided to stop saving money in a non registered account for the time being and concentrate on maxing out D's tax sheltered account as he has a lot more unused room than I do.
Visibility on the ski hill is not so good today due to low clouds so I'm staying put to deal with administrative stuff while D is out giving it a go anyway -- Not surprised. He's much more intrepid than I. It's a busy day as many people are still off for the holidays as kids won't be going back to school until Jan 7th.
Monday, December 24, 2012
Glühwein
Originally I thought Christmas Markets were going to be all about small handicrafts and ornaments, gingerbread, roasted chestnuts and this thing called Gluhwein or mulled wine.
Being not much of a drinker I was curious to try it out but we didn't have great expectations of many more than just one as sweet and wine weren't our favourite combination. Wrong again! I think I had about 6! Not all at once...D was totally surprised with my response and his own too.
So the biergarten culture switches over to gatherings around the numerous gluhwein stands throughout the city. What fun it was! After lunch, after work, we saw loads of people just taking their time, talking to others, standing and leaning on the stands, watching the crowds and passing time. Though our German wasn't so great, we smiled and nodded and raised our mugs with others. Universal.
At first we drank the stuff too fast (a warm drink outdoors on a cool day is so good!) until we kinda learned to slow down and savour it. Because the wine isn't boiled, the alcohol stays in and for a lightweight like me, you can get tipsy!
The recipes differed from stand to stand and so did the mugs. They were often custom to the stand and people could keep them as a yearly memento. We brought home 2 different ones. Part of the price included a deposit for the mug so if you turn it in at the end, you get it back. Costs varied depending upon the style of the mug. My mug deposit was 5.50 Euro whereas the one D kept was 3 Euro. The gluhwein itself ranged from 2 Euro - 4 Euro.
The incentive was there to go from stand to stand to try out the different brews. We quickly learned which flavours of the hot stuff we preferred (the more citrus and spicy ones) and looked forward to our daily dose of enjoyment. The different stands were so creatively decorated with custom signs, we wished we were able to understand them all. So we resorted to the simple method of ordering things we didn't recognize and it served us well.
Being not much of a drinker I was curious to try it out but we didn't have great expectations of many more than just one as sweet and wine weren't our favourite combination. Wrong again! I think I had about 6! Not all at once...D was totally surprised with my response and his own too.
So the biergarten culture switches over to gatherings around the numerous gluhwein stands throughout the city. What fun it was! After lunch, after work, we saw loads of people just taking their time, talking to others, standing and leaning on the stands, watching the crowds and passing time. Though our German wasn't so great, we smiled and nodded and raised our mugs with others. Universal.
At first we drank the stuff too fast (a warm drink outdoors on a cool day is so good!) until we kinda learned to slow down and savour it. Because the wine isn't boiled, the alcohol stays in and for a lightweight like me, you can get tipsy!
The recipes differed from stand to stand and so did the mugs. They were often custom to the stand and people could keep them as a yearly memento. We brought home 2 different ones. Part of the price included a deposit for the mug so if you turn it in at the end, you get it back. Costs varied depending upon the style of the mug. My mug deposit was 5.50 Euro whereas the one D kept was 3 Euro. The gluhwein itself ranged from 2 Euro - 4 Euro.
The incentive was there to go from stand to stand to try out the different brews. We quickly learned which flavours of the hot stuff we preferred (the more citrus and spicy ones) and looked forward to our daily dose of enjoyment. The different stands were so creatively decorated with custom signs, we wished we were able to understand them all. So we resorted to the simple method of ordering things we didn't recognize and it served us well.
Sunday, December 23, 2012
Munich In The Winter
We arrived to find Munich covered in about 3 inches of snow. The first thing I noticed was that they don't seem to clear snow or use salt on their sidewalks or train platforms. Instead they used cut gravel the size of pea gravel. People were sloshing around going about their business. The only time we saw a sidewalk plow was on a day when it was pouring rain and everything was melting.
Upon further inspection, the gravel made for good traction and when stepped on by many, served to break up the snow. Made walking noisier than normal though. Coming from Canada, we are used to public snow removal once accumulation reaches 2 inches and salt/sand mixture applied pretty much everywhere.
Along the same theme, long boots were worn by most women, understandably to shield from the splashes from walking through slush. Coats were also longer than what we tend to see in my neck of the woods -- Just above knee length. Again made sense since most people walked everywhere.
Wearing a coat that covers one's behind and part legs makes such a difference in heat retention. Before this trip, I bought myself a longer coat and even though it doesn't have as much down fill (550 vs 700) as my regular jacket, I felt warmer and more comfortable after being outside for hours.
We stumbled upon the nicest sporting wear and goods store ever -- "Globetrotter". Ranks right up there with how a luxury goods store is designed and layed out. Unfortunately their website is pretty utilitarian. D fell for a line of ski wear sold there-- Bergans of Norway.
As a fan of most things Norwegian (new coat is by Helly Hansen) I wasn't surprised. In fact all the sports stores we visited in Munich carried Norwegian gear as its higher end offerings. When D found a few Dale of Norway sweaters at one shop, he realized what a deal I got on the ones I lugged home this summer. They were priced at 450 Euro and up.
Despite the snow and slush, people were still riding their bicycles all around. And they didn't have any special tires or anything. Most are sporting a granny or a not too technical bike. When you think about what a prosperous city Munich is, it made no sense.
But then again, maybe it does. Perhaps we are too gear conscious here. We wouldn't consider riding our bikes in the winter without proper tires, proper gear etc. Whereas seeing well dressed people on commuter bikes that were bought for the express purpose of being exposed to the elements without worry is actually really practical. Made us feel like we were too fussy or coddled.
Being that Munich is the headquarters for BMW, it is no surprise that you see a lot of them -- Mostly 5 series sedans and wagons. D, being a huge fan of the "old man wagon", feels very much at home in Munich. A few months ago, he test drove a 5 series and I wouldn't be at all shocked if that will be his next vehicle. Again we didn't end up making it to BMW Welt. I have a feeling one visit will cement D's decision.
Something I didn't notice when we were here in May were the number of smokers. A lot of people were smoking, standing outside bars and restaurants, while walking. How could I have missed that? No answer for you. D remembered seeing and smelling a lot of smokers the last time around but I didn't and I have the sensitive nose in the family. Losing my touch.
Smokers were very aware of the people around them especially when moving as they made a point of making sure their cigarettes did not contact anyone nor blew smoke at anyone as there were crowds pretty much everywhere we went. That was much appreciated.
Upon further inspection, the gravel made for good traction and when stepped on by many, served to break up the snow. Made walking noisier than normal though. Coming from Canada, we are used to public snow removal once accumulation reaches 2 inches and salt/sand mixture applied pretty much everywhere.
Along the same theme, long boots were worn by most women, understandably to shield from the splashes from walking through slush. Coats were also longer than what we tend to see in my neck of the woods -- Just above knee length. Again made sense since most people walked everywhere.
Wearing a coat that covers one's behind and part legs makes such a difference in heat retention. Before this trip, I bought myself a longer coat and even though it doesn't have as much down fill (550 vs 700) as my regular jacket, I felt warmer and more comfortable after being outside for hours.
We stumbled upon the nicest sporting wear and goods store ever -- "Globetrotter". Ranks right up there with how a luxury goods store is designed and layed out. Unfortunately their website is pretty utilitarian. D fell for a line of ski wear sold there-- Bergans of Norway.
As a fan of most things Norwegian (new coat is by Helly Hansen) I wasn't surprised. In fact all the sports stores we visited in Munich carried Norwegian gear as its higher end offerings. When D found a few Dale of Norway sweaters at one shop, he realized what a deal I got on the ones I lugged home this summer. They were priced at 450 Euro and up.
Despite the snow and slush, people were still riding their bicycles all around. And they didn't have any special tires or anything. Most are sporting a granny or a not too technical bike. When you think about what a prosperous city Munich is, it made no sense.
But then again, maybe it does. Perhaps we are too gear conscious here. We wouldn't consider riding our bikes in the winter without proper tires, proper gear etc. Whereas seeing well dressed people on commuter bikes that were bought for the express purpose of being exposed to the elements without worry is actually really practical. Made us feel like we were too fussy or coddled.
Being that Munich is the headquarters for BMW, it is no surprise that you see a lot of them -- Mostly 5 series sedans and wagons. D, being a huge fan of the "old man wagon", feels very much at home in Munich. A few months ago, he test drove a 5 series and I wouldn't be at all shocked if that will be his next vehicle. Again we didn't end up making it to BMW Welt. I have a feeling one visit will cement D's decision.
Something I didn't notice when we were here in May were the number of smokers. A lot of people were smoking, standing outside bars and restaurants, while walking. How could I have missed that? No answer for you. D remembered seeing and smelling a lot of smokers the last time around but I didn't and I have the sensitive nose in the family. Losing my touch.
Smokers were very aware of the people around them especially when moving as they made a point of making sure their cigarettes did not contact anyone nor blew smoke at anyone as there were crowds pretty much everywhere we went. That was much appreciated.
Saturday, December 22, 2012
Return to Munich
My usual jet lag has me up much earlier than usual. After about 20 hr of travel we are home. We are lucky the storms in the Midwest did not adversely affect our flights home. There was thick fog in Amsterdam and were delayed because of it.
It was a real treat to have been back to Munich especially this time of year. We stayed at the same apartment and the owner greeted us with a big smile. He went through the improvements on the apartment since our last visit and a funny moment occurred.
A feature wall was painted in the living room, new shower head, sink etc. We weren't expecting any changes so they were pleasant surprises. It was the way he described the renovations that made us stop for a few seconds until we got it -- "I did some pimping in the bathroom".
It was a real treat to have been back to Munich especially this time of year. We stayed at the same apartment and the owner greeted us with a big smile. He went through the improvements on the apartment since our last visit and a funny moment occurred.
A feature wall was painted in the living room, new shower head, sink etc. We weren't expecting any changes so they were pleasant surprises. It was the way he described the renovations that made us stop for a few seconds until we got it -- "I did some pimping in the bathroom".
Remember those early viral ads that Volkswagen did?
I'll be back with a review post and some photos.
Friday, December 14, 2012
Holiday Time
It's time to forget for a little while our regular life. My work for the year has been completed. The office is organized for 2013. Our home is in good hands. Everything else can wait.
The bags are packed. Checking in soon for our flights to Munich. Christmas markets and magic here we come. Back in time to spend Christmas at home. Then off we go out west for some mountain air, skiing and skating.
Wishing You All the Very Best this Holiday Season.
I leave you with videos of beautiful hand writing and Calligraphy. A lost art.
The bags are packed. Checking in soon for our flights to Munich. Christmas markets and magic here we come. Back in time to spend Christmas at home. Then off we go out west for some mountain air, skiing and skating.
Wishing You All the Very Best this Holiday Season.
I leave you with videos of beautiful hand writing and Calligraphy. A lost art.
Peter Unbehauen at book signing
Start at 5:22
I write with the next size up, the MB 146
Monday, December 10, 2012
The Trap Is Set 2
Maybe my novice violin playing and our noise making (same difference depending on the day...) helped? We did not hear any sounds from below the last couple of nights. D hung a LED flashlight in the crawlspace as that is supposed to make things uncomfortable too. The trap door sprung the first night but nothing. The sardines around the trap were eaten. D reset it and no action the second night.
We have done all we can do for now. Our wildlife guy will take it from here as we won't be able to head back up until the new year. And over the winter, everything depends on the weather.
The plan is he is going to install a one way spring loaded door today if our guest has not been trapped yet. Then he will be digging along the foundation to lay some kind of impermeable cloth so nothing can dig through again. Once he is sure the raccoon has left (has to go out sooner or later), then the door will be removed and area sealed. Other than having take up part of deck to do the work, he doesn't feel it will be too big an issue.
It has been a busy last 3 days. Because I am the way I am, I also had fireplace contractors, township personnel, natural gas contractor and our realtor come by too. We're not selling yet but wanted an idea of market value as we will be appealing our property value assessment for both the house and cottage this year. More on this process another time.
Our gas got turned off as part of the cottage closing without our permission. They have never done that before so luckily we had another source of heat or else we would have been even more mad and cold. So we obviously had a new person assigned to our place. We are grateful this new person brought to our attention the animal thing even though it ended up being a coincidence that the real problem is in the other half of the cottage (The crawlspaces aren't connected).
The fireplace guys were redoing the caulking around the chimney as we found a couple of drip marks on the floor. Their work was tested shortly after as we got a good dose of rain/freezing rain. No issues.
And finally the township fellow was over to discuss ideas about managing random pieces of furniture we've found by our garbage box twice this year. Because we and our 2 neighbours are at the end of a quiet street with 14 acres of wood behind and to the side, it is a good place for people to dump their stuff instead of bring it to the dump and paying the $6. Or waiting until the once a year large item pickup where 5 items are picked up for free which is what we've done with our finds. Turns out our neighbours have had that happen too and I guess it is our turn.
Here's the kicker. Should the township pick it up while on their patrol, whoever's garbage box it is beside gets charged -- 1st time warning, 2nd time $125, subsequent times $350...You can probably guess my reaction to that news.
So we are going to start a neighbourhood garbage watch amongst the 3 of us and cover for each other to help avoid those fees. I just can't believe people would do this in the first place. Talk about not taking responsibility for yourself and your stuff. Plus it is really bad Karma.
The township fellow was really understanding and nice. Apparently it is happening all over the place. He has written it up as a littering violation and offered to remove them (lawn chairs) for us.
We came up with something better. Because we rarely use our garbage box and are used to taking our garbage and recycling home (due to animals) anyways, we decided to store our box away in the garage. So it will no longer be a sitting duck for someone to lean something else against. The township can only send letters to box owners they can identify.
We've left messages with our neighbours telling them what we've done and I know the one will likely follow as he rarely leaves garbage out either. Our other neighbour comes up more often and has someone maintain her property so she will probably continue to use her box.
We have done all we can do for now. Our wildlife guy will take it from here as we won't be able to head back up until the new year. And over the winter, everything depends on the weather.
The plan is he is going to install a one way spring loaded door today if our guest has not been trapped yet. Then he will be digging along the foundation to lay some kind of impermeable cloth so nothing can dig through again. Once he is sure the raccoon has left (has to go out sooner or later), then the door will be removed and area sealed. Other than having take up part of deck to do the work, he doesn't feel it will be too big an issue.
It has been a busy last 3 days. Because I am the way I am, I also had fireplace contractors, township personnel, natural gas contractor and our realtor come by too. We're not selling yet but wanted an idea of market value as we will be appealing our property value assessment for both the house and cottage this year. More on this process another time.
Our gas got turned off as part of the cottage closing without our permission. They have never done that before so luckily we had another source of heat or else we would have been even more mad and cold. So we obviously had a new person assigned to our place. We are grateful this new person brought to our attention the animal thing even though it ended up being a coincidence that the real problem is in the other half of the cottage (The crawlspaces aren't connected).
The fireplace guys were redoing the caulking around the chimney as we found a couple of drip marks on the floor. Their work was tested shortly after as we got a good dose of rain/freezing rain. No issues.
And finally the township fellow was over to discuss ideas about managing random pieces of furniture we've found by our garbage box twice this year. Because we and our 2 neighbours are at the end of a quiet street with 14 acres of wood behind and to the side, it is a good place for people to dump their stuff instead of bring it to the dump and paying the $6. Or waiting until the once a year large item pickup where 5 items are picked up for free which is what we've done with our finds. Turns out our neighbours have had that happen too and I guess it is our turn.
Here's the kicker. Should the township pick it up while on their patrol, whoever's garbage box it is beside gets charged -- 1st time warning, 2nd time $125, subsequent times $350...You can probably guess my reaction to that news.
So we are going to start a neighbourhood garbage watch amongst the 3 of us and cover for each other to help avoid those fees. I just can't believe people would do this in the first place. Talk about not taking responsibility for yourself and your stuff. Plus it is really bad Karma.
The township fellow was really understanding and nice. Apparently it is happening all over the place. He has written it up as a littering violation and offered to remove them (lawn chairs) for us.
We came up with something better. Because we rarely use our garbage box and are used to taking our garbage and recycling home (due to animals) anyways, we decided to store our box away in the garage. So it will no longer be a sitting duck for someone to lean something else against. The township can only send letters to box owners they can identify.
We've left messages with our neighbours telling them what we've done and I know the one will likely follow as he rarely leaves garbage out either. Our other neighbour comes up more often and has someone maintain her property so she will probably continue to use her box.
Friday, December 7, 2012
The Trap Is Set
So we do have something living under the cottage. Not in the same area as where the plumbers were but underneath our bedroom. We just loved being woken up at around 4 am by what sounded like something was playing around with the copper pipes. Great.
D called the wildlife animal control guy again and was lucky he was able to come out the same day. Now we have a trap set -- For a raccoon. We will be keeping an eye on it until we leave to go back home and he will take it from there. The next step will be to seal the entrance once the culprit is caught.
Each visit by our wildlife guy costs $50 and he estimates the rest of it including clean up will be in the $400 range. I'm not concerned about the cost but I asked him why now after 9 years of being intruder free? He didn't have an answer for me. We joked that the bacon we eat must smell too good.
We went out shopping for a new smoke detector, plumbing antifreeze as well as a radio today. The radio in combination with a timer is supposed to irritate the animal encouraging it to leave. We couldn't find a suitable option so left it for tomorrow.
When we got back an idea came to D. We didn't really need a radio. Why don't I play my violin in the bedroom? Surely it would aggravate the raccoon enough for him to want to leave! I rolled my eyes at him but couldn't disagree with the concept. So practice I did. We also made a point of walking loudly on the hardwood floors. We'll see if it amounted to anything tonight.
D called the wildlife animal control guy again and was lucky he was able to come out the same day. Now we have a trap set -- For a raccoon. We will be keeping an eye on it until we leave to go back home and he will take it from there. The next step will be to seal the entrance once the culprit is caught.
Each visit by our wildlife guy costs $50 and he estimates the rest of it including clean up will be in the $400 range. I'm not concerned about the cost but I asked him why now after 9 years of being intruder free? He didn't have an answer for me. We joked that the bacon we eat must smell too good.
We went out shopping for a new smoke detector, plumbing antifreeze as well as a radio today. The radio in combination with a timer is supposed to irritate the animal encouraging it to leave. We couldn't find a suitable option so left it for tomorrow.
When we got back an idea came to D. We didn't really need a radio. Why don't I play my violin in the bedroom? Surely it would aggravate the raccoon enough for him to want to leave! I rolled my eyes at him but couldn't disagree with the concept. So practice I did. We also made a point of walking loudly on the hardwood floors. We'll see if it amounted to anything tonight.
Thursday, December 6, 2012
Keys
I had a 10 minute fit (felt much longer) the other night after coming home from art class when I thought I had lost my keys. D drives so I usually put my wallet and keys in my art bag as back up. My car won't lock unless the keys are out of the car whereas with D's car, you can.
What to do at 10 pm? I was ready to call the school to see if there was anyone in security I could talk to. All I could think about was "How am I going to get into my office tomorrow? Crap, a new key to my car is going to cost $$$! OMG, someone has keys to my house, cottage and shed! Lucky I have the ski condo keys in a different place...where are they again???" One thing led to another and I was driving myself crazy.
I have all my lessons on one day now. So we started retracing my steps. Got home from music OK. So obviously had keys to get into the house and make it to ballet a few hours later. And got home from ballet OK and I know I put the keys in my art bag like I have done the past 14 weeks.
My "art bag" is actually a laptop case. All the compartments work great for separating ruler from brushes from packs of pencils and other stuff. My keys were in a sub compartment I didn't use. One that was padded and velcro shut (middle) from the main ones so when I emptied and felt around, I couldn't hear or feel them. They had dropped in there by error.
What a mental emotional nightmare. Losing a wallet is a big deal but losing keys would be too. Knock on wood neither have truly gone missing. Being more diligent will solve this problem as I cannot see a way around keeping keys together to mitigate potential loss.
What to do at 10 pm? I was ready to call the school to see if there was anyone in security I could talk to. All I could think about was "How am I going to get into my office tomorrow? Crap, a new key to my car is going to cost $$$! OMG, someone has keys to my house, cottage and shed! Lucky I have the ski condo keys in a different place...where are they again???" One thing led to another and I was driving myself crazy.
I have all my lessons on one day now. So we started retracing my steps. Got home from music OK. So obviously had keys to get into the house and make it to ballet a few hours later. And got home from ballet OK and I know I put the keys in my art bag like I have done the past 14 weeks.
My "art bag" is actually a laptop case. All the compartments work great for separating ruler from brushes from packs of pencils and other stuff. My keys were in a sub compartment I didn't use. One that was padded and velcro shut (middle) from the main ones so when I emptied and felt around, I couldn't hear or feel them. They had dropped in there by error.
What a mental emotional nightmare. Losing a wallet is a big deal but losing keys would be too. Knock on wood neither have truly gone missing. Being more diligent will solve this problem as I cannot see a way around keeping keys together to mitigate potential loss.
Wednesday, December 5, 2012
Confessions
I had 2 colleagues confide in me yesterday. One (A) I've known for over 10 years but wouldn't consider "close" and the other (B) I had just met for the 2nd time. Both women. A is 50 and B around 27 years old.
"A" wanted to run something by me. It was a work dilemma at her part time job. She works full time and part time. The terms of her contract were up for review and what was being proposed is a significant pay cut. The original rate was set taking into consideration it was a fledgling business requiring a moderate commute. I guess it is still struggling financially (huge overhead) and the owner wanted a bigger cut.
What was being proposed would still be considered reasonable but obviously not when compared to what she is currently being paid. So the question was, "Am I being unreasonable?". To which I asked "Do you need this job? Does he need you more than you need him? Why are you doing this?" I'll get to her response shortly.
"B" is new to work, almost 5 years into it. Am starting to see the financial potential and enjoying the first real burst of consumer power. Bright eyed and bushy tailed, she does good work and is well liked. The conversation started with "I haven't told anyone outside of my boyfriend...". I wasn't sure why I was hearing this when we didn't really know each other.
Turns out she has decided to buy something expensive but was feeling shy about sharing her indulgence with family and friends who would not likely understand. The item was a luxury automobile (first vehicle)... 6 figures. And she thought I would understand because I drive an expensive one too. I think she thought she was following in the footsteps of seasoned colleagues? She had saved all year for the down payment towards the lease.
I didn't know how to feel -- Insulted? Sure made me wonder what type of vibe I was giving off! I don't know if she was looking for encouragement or congratulations. Leaving my opinions aside, I congratulated her on her new lease, asked a bit about the car (she didn't know much...which really surprised me) and was told about the "great" deal ($1500/month, down from $1900 because she knew someone who knew someone).
When it was my turn to talk, I told her I bought my car used, 2008 with 35K on it. I think I burst her bubble. I didn't tell her what I had been driving for the 14 years prior as it was a used one too. That would have probably done her in. There is obviously no glamour with buying a used vehicle in her eyes and our reasons for buying a performance vehicle differs. I don't think I'll be privy to many more confidential talks like this.
The person who would understand would be A. The reason why she is working 2 jobs is because of debt -- 300K line of credit of which roughly 1/3rd is mortgage. Scary right? We aren't close because I just don't find talking about going shopping and buying new clothes every month fun or exciting anymore. I used to when I was much younger. Now I channel my monies towards travel and education which in turn really doesn't excite her.
I'm scared for B. It is likely her income will stay strong but what if her relationship doesn't? A large lease would compromise her ability to qualify for a mortgage. And what about maintenance? Everything costs more on a vehicle like that. I doubled our "car" working account when I decided to buy mine just in case. And should something happen and the cost of repairs sickens me, I will have no problem going back to a less expensive vehicle.
So A needs the job but her pride is hurt. I told her to go over the numbers and see what her gut says. It isn't a bad deal, just that what she has been getting was an ultra good one.
B is picking up her new ride just in time for Christmas and she is over the moon with excitement. I can certainly understand the excitement part but hope she doesn't become A in a few decades.
"A" wanted to run something by me. It was a work dilemma at her part time job. She works full time and part time. The terms of her contract were up for review and what was being proposed is a significant pay cut. The original rate was set taking into consideration it was a fledgling business requiring a moderate commute. I guess it is still struggling financially (huge overhead) and the owner wanted a bigger cut.
What was being proposed would still be considered reasonable but obviously not when compared to what she is currently being paid. So the question was, "Am I being unreasonable?". To which I asked "Do you need this job? Does he need you more than you need him? Why are you doing this?" I'll get to her response shortly.
"B" is new to work, almost 5 years into it. Am starting to see the financial potential and enjoying the first real burst of consumer power. Bright eyed and bushy tailed, she does good work and is well liked. The conversation started with "I haven't told anyone outside of my boyfriend...". I wasn't sure why I was hearing this when we didn't really know each other.
Turns out she has decided to buy something expensive but was feeling shy about sharing her indulgence with family and friends who would not likely understand. The item was a luxury automobile (first vehicle)... 6 figures. And she thought I would understand because I drive an expensive one too. I think she thought she was following in the footsteps of seasoned colleagues? She had saved all year for the down payment towards the lease.
I didn't know how to feel -- Insulted? Sure made me wonder what type of vibe I was giving off! I don't know if she was looking for encouragement or congratulations. Leaving my opinions aside, I congratulated her on her new lease, asked a bit about the car (she didn't know much...which really surprised me) and was told about the "great" deal ($1500/month, down from $1900 because she knew someone who knew someone).
When it was my turn to talk, I told her I bought my car used, 2008 with 35K on it. I think I burst her bubble. I didn't tell her what I had been driving for the 14 years prior as it was a used one too. That would have probably done her in. There is obviously no glamour with buying a used vehicle in her eyes and our reasons for buying a performance vehicle differs. I don't think I'll be privy to many more confidential talks like this.
The person who would understand would be A. The reason why she is working 2 jobs is because of debt -- 300K line of credit of which roughly 1/3rd is mortgage. Scary right? We aren't close because I just don't find talking about going shopping and buying new clothes every month fun or exciting anymore. I used to when I was much younger. Now I channel my monies towards travel and education which in turn really doesn't excite her.
I'm scared for B. It is likely her income will stay strong but what if her relationship doesn't? A large lease would compromise her ability to qualify for a mortgage. And what about maintenance? Everything costs more on a vehicle like that. I doubled our "car" working account when I decided to buy mine just in case. And should something happen and the cost of repairs sickens me, I will have no problem going back to a less expensive vehicle.
So A needs the job but her pride is hurt. I told her to go over the numbers and see what her gut says. It isn't a bad deal, just that what she has been getting was an ultra good one.
B is picking up her new ride just in time for Christmas and she is over the moon with excitement. I can certainly understand the excitement part but hope she doesn't become A in a few decades.
Sunday, December 2, 2012
Wildlife Update & Another Documentary Recommendation
Relief washed over us when the first words out of our wildlife animal guy was "I don't know what kind of plumber you have working for you...".
Apparently we have plumbers who are afraid of spiders (been there for as long as the cottage has been around we're sure) and ones who cannot tell a real animal threat from a false or old one.
There were no signs of anything living in the crawlspace. There may have been a mole at one time who dug underneath the foundation and got in (based on some really old poop) but no tracks in the snow or anything current that required a trap or plugging of holes.
As for spraying for spiders, it can't be done because of our proximity to 2 streams. He would lose his license. He didn't even recommend us using Raid under there for fear of seepage and we agreed with him.
The plumbers we use are the biggest outfit in the area and after 9 seasons of openings and closings we have decided to look for someone new not solely due to this incident but because we would prefer to work with a company that doesn't come across as abrupt. I have less patience than D so when he has had it, I know it is time.
On a much scarier note, here's a link to another documentary for you, about genetically modified foods, their origins, the politics around them and their (our) developing future. A great place to start if you are wondering what they are about and if you would want to eat it. The film was made a number of years ago and what it showed was frightening enough. Can you imagine what is going on now?
Apparently we have plumbers who are afraid of spiders (been there for as long as the cottage has been around we're sure) and ones who cannot tell a real animal threat from a false or old one.
There were no signs of anything living in the crawlspace. There may have been a mole at one time who dug underneath the foundation and got in (based on some really old poop) but no tracks in the snow or anything current that required a trap or plugging of holes.
As for spraying for spiders, it can't be done because of our proximity to 2 streams. He would lose his license. He didn't even recommend us using Raid under there for fear of seepage and we agreed with him.
The plumbers we use are the biggest outfit in the area and after 9 seasons of openings and closings we have decided to look for someone new not solely due to this incident but because we would prefer to work with a company that doesn't come across as abrupt. I have less patience than D so when he has had it, I know it is time.
On a much scarier note, here's a link to another documentary for you, about genetically modified foods, their origins, the politics around them and their (our) developing future. A great place to start if you are wondering what they are about and if you would want to eat it. The film was made a number of years ago and what it showed was frightening enough. Can you imagine what is going on now?
Wednesday, November 28, 2012
Man vs Nature
It has been an "interesting" week so far. We got a message from the plumbers who usually close up the water at the cottage. Apparently we have something living in the crawlspace -- porcupine or raccoon? They didn't actually see it and didn't stay long enough to figure it out. But they will not return until we get it handled. Which doesn't leave us much to go on.
The cottage is built on a concrete foundation so we aren't sure how anything of that size could get in. The most obvious way would be from a loose ventilation vent. There are 4 around the perimeter. There is also a trap door leading to the crawlspace that something might have eaten through so we really won't know until we see it for ourselves.
Until we can get up there, we have a local animal guy on the case and hopefully he will find signs and can set a trap. It's somewhat easier right now as they just got a good dumping of snow (tracks). With any luck, we might have good news by the end of the week. Nature is strong willed, especially at this time of year when it is getting cold and everything is looking for shelter. Basic survival 101.
The cottage is built on a concrete foundation so we aren't sure how anything of that size could get in. The most obvious way would be from a loose ventilation vent. There are 4 around the perimeter. There is also a trap door leading to the crawlspace that something might have eaten through so we really won't know until we see it for ourselves.
Until we can get up there, we have a local animal guy on the case and hopefully he will find signs and can set a trap. It's somewhat easier right now as they just got a good dumping of snow (tracks). With any luck, we might have good news by the end of the week. Nature is strong willed, especially at this time of year when it is getting cold and everything is looking for shelter. Basic survival 101.
Sunday, November 25, 2012
Arm Yourselves: Food Resources
Here's a small list of Authors to read as you start or continue on your own journey towards Food (World) Awareness:
Pamela Rice does an excellent job introducing the main issues. If you are new to this information, it will be shocking and embarrassing and sickening that humans are capable of such behaviour. Highly moving and motivating.
Michael Pollan is so calming to listen to. Nothing seems to phase him. And he knows his stuff. He has numerous books and DVDs under his belt. I would recommend anything of his.
Lierre Keith changed my mind about going vegan. Read "The Vegetarian Myth: Food, Justice and Sustainability" whether you eat or never want to eat meat. It's a book for everyone. She takes the highly charged issues presented by Pamela Rice and weaves it together into much larger and often surprising pictures. I would recommend you run, not walk, to get your hands on her book and make up your own mind. You can read Chapter 1 for free.
Joel Salatin is a champion farmer. He is so passionate about sustainability and runs his farm in such a logical way, you'd wonder why the heck isn't this the norm? Well spoken and grounded, he has authored a number of books about farming and his struggles against the industrial machine. I would spend my food dollars at his farm if I lived in the area. Luckily we have some pretty great ones around here who follow the same sustainable philosophy.
Pamela Rice does an excellent job introducing the main issues. If you are new to this information, it will be shocking and embarrassing and sickening that humans are capable of such behaviour. Highly moving and motivating.
Michael Pollan is so calming to listen to. Nothing seems to phase him. And he knows his stuff. He has numerous books and DVDs under his belt. I would recommend anything of his.
Lierre Keith changed my mind about going vegan. Read "The Vegetarian Myth: Food, Justice and Sustainability" whether you eat or never want to eat meat. It's a book for everyone. She takes the highly charged issues presented by Pamela Rice and weaves it together into much larger and often surprising pictures. I would recommend you run, not walk, to get your hands on her book and make up your own mind. You can read Chapter 1 for free.
Joel Salatin is a champion farmer. He is so passionate about sustainability and runs his farm in such a logical way, you'd wonder why the heck isn't this the norm? Well spoken and grounded, he has authored a number of books about farming and his struggles against the industrial machine. I would spend my food dollars at his farm if I lived in the area. Luckily we have some pretty great ones around here who follow the same sustainable philosophy.
Thursday, November 22, 2012
Wisdom from An Organic Farmer
We recently spent some lovely time with an area organic farmer. His farm was not flashy and upon our first hand shake, we knew we would get along.
Originally I thought we were just going there to check things out, buy some produce and would try it over the week. We ended up staying for an extended visit. He was very generous with his time.
Here are some of the things we learned:
Originally I thought we were just going there to check things out, buy some produce and would try it over the week. We ended up staying for an extended visit. He was very generous with his time.
Here are some of the things we learned:
- "The chickens are like humans. They come in all different sizes". Wow, what a simple phrase that symbolizes so much. Factory chickens are bred to uniform sizes. Having since tasted the meat, I would have to say it is much denser and flavourful. De-boning a chicken is normally relatively easy for me but I had a struggle with the organic one until I realized it was because the ligaments and tendons and muscles were so much stronger. Probably from all the roaming around they do. And the stock the carcass produced was much darker than what we are used to -- Dense bones perhaps?
- Laying hens have been modified to pump out one egg a day. While free range hens will lay once every 3 days or so. They are also about double the size of caged laying hens which are a shocking half a football size. He named the different breeds of livestock he has raised over the years and which lines were ending etc. We aren't familiar with any of them so the info went way over our heads.
- When we asked if he had any pork in stock. His answer was "I do have some pigs, but they are small right now." The number of animals he raises is completely dependent upon the amount of feed he can grow. So the timing of when products are available is cyclical...Another Wow moment. Aren't we so used to being able to buy bacon anytime?
- The beef we bought was so tender! We also found that we didn't need to eat as much to feel full for longer. Also, the omega 3:6 ratio is great when beef cattle are fed hay. When they are fed corn, the omega 3 pretty much disappears.
- His farm switched to organic in the early 70's because of the amount of chemicals that were being used and from his own physical reaction from being exposed to them. His gut told him he didn't want to do things that way anymore.
- An "aha" moment occurred at the bank while asking ("hat in hand") for a bridge loan to pay for feed because the money from a produce sale had not yet come in. The bank wouldn't approve it and instead authorized a loan based on acquiring more equity from the farm. He immediately went home and told his Wife that they were selling their pigs until all their debt (including mortgage) has been paid off and if there were any pigs left, then they'll continue. If not, they will do something else. They haven't owed a bank money since the early 80's.
- Organic farming was rare back then. There wasn't any support outside of a few other farmers. They learned as they went. It has been consumer demand that has brought the biggest shifts.
- The numbers of weekend farmers' markets have impacted his farm shop sales. There are fewer people making the drive out nowadays. He believes it is still important to meet the farmer and see the farms but can understand times are changing.
- It costs a lot of money to run a large operation as quotas have to be bought. He opted not to go that route because it would mean owing money for pretty much the rest of his life. He farms at a volume that he can sustain which means saving seeds each year. Freedom is more important. He worries about the current generation of young adults who are strapping themselves to large mortgages and having to have 2 incomes to "keep up" with everyone else.
- It has been about 30 years since he had to use a vet for a sick animal. His farm goal is to improve the soil and natural habitat, provide healthy well balance food for people while maintaining a livelihood for his family.
- He acknowledged how overwhelming it can be to want to do "everything right" as he too gets fired up over many issues but advised us to pick our battles and go from there. Every change to a better direction is a good one. We can't wait to see him again.
Tuesday, November 20, 2012
Start Where You Are
We thought it was easiest to tackle the area of food first (not!). The learning curve has been steep as we attempted to identify the sources of the products we consume. At first we just figured it was as simple as increasing the budget to pay for "organic", "non GMO" etc. Then he discovered the middle zones of non certified organic or natural farms and grass fed or grain fed and the pros and cons of each...Confusing!
It's easy to be overcome and overwhelmed trying to do the "right thing". So it was also necessary to take a step back to recognize and acknowledge incremental steps in the "right" direction as also valid. Not everything can be done at once with giant leaps and bounds...I've always had a tough time with that one.
Turns out that in our province (Ontario), meat raised and sold has to be growth hormone and antibiotic free. We are more in line than I thought. They will use antibiotics in cases of illness but are supposed to leave enough time for residues to leave the system before processing. We've also been told that antibiotics exist in feed, especially with turkeys. And yes, we have CAFOs in Canada.
There are a number of area farms that run an organic vegetable "produce box" pick up or delivery service. Some will give you a break on the cost if you are willing to roll up your sleeves and help out at the farm. My only concern is wastage. I know we don't eat as many vegetables as we'd like so getting a whole tub full weekly freaks me out a bit. They will provide recipes to help you out with cooking new to you veggies.
I think us driving around all over the place to various organic farm stores may not be the best answer either. I've been busy identifying both certified and non certified organic farms within a 50 km radius of where we live as an FYI. We had the pleasure of visiting one (learned so much!) over the weekend and I'll be writing a post about our experiences shortly.
In reality, purchasing medium or large orders at once or having them delivered is actually cheaper and more efficient. We've also found a service that works with area organic farms and stores (within 100 km) so you could actually do most if not all of your weekly shopping through them for a very minimal delivery charge ($5). I've set up an account and will be giving them a go.
It's easy to be overcome and overwhelmed trying to do the "right thing". So it was also necessary to take a step back to recognize and acknowledge incremental steps in the "right" direction as also valid. Not everything can be done at once with giant leaps and bounds...I've always had a tough time with that one.
Turns out that in our province (Ontario), meat raised and sold has to be growth hormone and antibiotic free. We are more in line than I thought. They will use antibiotics in cases of illness but are supposed to leave enough time for residues to leave the system before processing. We've also been told that antibiotics exist in feed, especially with turkeys. And yes, we have CAFOs in Canada.
There are a number of area farms that run an organic vegetable "produce box" pick up or delivery service. Some will give you a break on the cost if you are willing to roll up your sleeves and help out at the farm. My only concern is wastage. I know we don't eat as many vegetables as we'd like so getting a whole tub full weekly freaks me out a bit. They will provide recipes to help you out with cooking new to you veggies.
I think us driving around all over the place to various organic farm stores may not be the best answer either. I've been busy identifying both certified and non certified organic farms within a 50 km radius of where we live as an FYI. We had the pleasure of visiting one (learned so much!) over the weekend and I'll be writing a post about our experiences shortly.
In reality, purchasing medium or large orders at once or having them delivered is actually cheaper and more efficient. We've also found a service that works with area organic farms and stores (within 100 km) so you could actually do most if not all of your weekly shopping through them for a very minimal delivery charge ($5). I've set up an account and will be giving them a go.
Friday, November 16, 2012
Early Thoughts -- Grateful / Not Grateful
I'm Grateful for:
I'm Not Grateful for:
- my luck in being born when and where I was -- I could have been one of 15 people living in a hut with no electricity, water or toilet, doing back breaking work all day -- Instead I've been blogging about being sore after dance and music lessons
- for reliable and plentiful water supply -- The water documentary said it best -- It doesn't matter who you are or how rich you may be, after 7 days without water, your eyes too will bleed...
- being able to afford to support farmers who are doing it "for the right reasons" -- Good reminder that nothing worthwhile is always fast or inexpensive -- D wants to learn how to farm
- being able to have an affordable education -- Coffee farmers in Ethiopia who maybe make cents a day value education so much they are willing to sell the shirt off their backs and put the funds into building a community school for their kids young and old
I'm Not Grateful for:
- being given so much choice in a supermarket because it leads me to believe getting all that produce any time of year is no big deal when in fact it costs too much -- I'm guilty of wanting strawberries in the winter and recently, I had a very large papaya sitting on my kitchen counter in an attempt to eat more fruit
- being told something is "good" for me when in fact it has been genetically modified with harmful consequences -- And law suits are going on pressuring farmers who don't want to switch over
- the cheapness of water as it lulls me into thinking it isn't worth much when in reality it is in extremely short supply -- How Coke is less expensive to drink than water in Nairobi -- Do we really need to be loading people up with sugar and caffeine?
- how it is "necessary" for large corporations to "always" show a quarterly profit when not exceeding expectations can still mean millions in profit but often results in stock price drops -- D asked if we need to start looking into investing in more ethically run companies as our "want" of ever growing investment income comes into play here...
Thursday, November 15, 2012
Recommended Documentaries
D managed to throw his back out and we took the forced down time to watch some documentaries.
Normally he can't handle more than one or two but surprised me, partly due to him not being able to move all that well for a couple of days (luckily it was the weekend) and also because the subjects touched us both deeply.
Books on the matter are great and I've read my share of them but seeing and hearing the issues hits home in an entirely different way. I would highly recommend the ones below:
We are committed to doing even more to ensure we are buying products that are fair trade, ethical, organic, local and non GMO. The above programs made us feel extremely uneasy (nauseous).
Our budget will be changing to reflect our increased commitment to our environment and to improving the lives of our fellow humans. I plan to elaborate a bit more on those changes in future posts.
Normally he can't handle more than one or two but surprised me, partly due to him not being able to move all that well for a couple of days (luckily it was the weekend) and also because the subjects touched us both deeply.
Books on the matter are great and I've read my share of them but seeing and hearing the issues hits home in an entirely different way. I would highly recommend the ones below:
- Senna: No Fear, No Limits, No Equal
- The End Of The Line
- Food, Inc.
- The End Of Poverty? (think again)
- Blue Gold
- Black Gold: Ethiopia, the birthplace of coffee
We are committed to doing even more to ensure we are buying products that are fair trade, ethical, organic, local and non GMO. The above programs made us feel extremely uneasy (nauseous).
Our budget will be changing to reflect our increased commitment to our environment and to improving the lives of our fellow humans. I plan to elaborate a bit more on those changes in future posts.
Saturday, November 10, 2012
Adventures in Adult Ed
My ballet and violin classes have recently gotten delayed (not on my part) for different valid reasons. Part of the frustration I'm feeling stems from not wanting the momentum to wane as well as the difficulty I encountered with even finding lesson opportunities in the first place.
Most schools cater to kids and for good reason. To become proficient in something like music, sport or dance usually requires an early start for developmental reasons. Those larger sized classes are often the bread and butter of the schools.
So when an adult calls or emails looking for availability, the times offered (if there are teachers with openings) are understandably what is left after the core classes are taken in consideration. Looking for lessons during the day is even more challenging as instructors often have "day jobs" too.
Some schools don't taking adult learners seriously. One place actually told me it would be OK to show up to a ballet class in yoga pants...Huh? Maybe they get their share of "mid life" crisis people who just want to have fun and are tired of it. Try finding a violin teacher willing to teach an adult beginner and you'll see what I mean. I had to pass an "interview".
Nabbing a good learning spot has become a big deal. The reason I haven't continued my ballroom lessons was because I lost my lesson slot when I broke my wrist learning how to figure skate 5 years ago. That's why I was so stunned and excited when my recent dance opportunities came about and why I was tempted (still am) to do both.
I favour private lessons because you learn faster and more. The costs are often double or triple. It's not because I'm a snob when it comes to group classes. It's just that group lessons times are usually in the evenings and I'm too tired and hungry on work nights.
Now that D and I are doing art one evening as well, there are limited other nights available when you add in us heading up north on a week night. Also, we look forward to and enjoy our unhurried dinners, after dinner walks and evenings together.
I get that my requirements aren't the easiest to accommodate either. When it does work out, I'm uber anxious to get going, making any deviations feel that much more difficult.
Most schools cater to kids and for good reason. To become proficient in something like music, sport or dance usually requires an early start for developmental reasons. Those larger sized classes are often the bread and butter of the schools.
So when an adult calls or emails looking for availability, the times offered (if there are teachers with openings) are understandably what is left after the core classes are taken in consideration. Looking for lessons during the day is even more challenging as instructors often have "day jobs" too.
Some schools don't taking adult learners seriously. One place actually told me it would be OK to show up to a ballet class in yoga pants...Huh? Maybe they get their share of "mid life" crisis people who just want to have fun and are tired of it. Try finding a violin teacher willing to teach an adult beginner and you'll see what I mean. I had to pass an "interview".
Nabbing a good learning spot has become a big deal. The reason I haven't continued my ballroom lessons was because I lost my lesson slot when I broke my wrist learning how to figure skate 5 years ago. That's why I was so stunned and excited when my recent dance opportunities came about and why I was tempted (still am) to do both.
I favour private lessons because you learn faster and more. The costs are often double or triple. It's not because I'm a snob when it comes to group classes. It's just that group lessons times are usually in the evenings and I'm too tired and hungry on work nights.
Now that D and I are doing art one evening as well, there are limited other nights available when you add in us heading up north on a week night. Also, we look forward to and enjoy our unhurried dinners, after dinner walks and evenings together.
I get that my requirements aren't the easiest to accommodate either. When it does work out, I'm uber anxious to get going, making any deviations feel that much more difficult.
Wednesday, November 7, 2012
Cards & Thoughts
I don't know if I ought to feel ashamed for this or not, but I haven't bought a card outside of a package of Thank You cards (which doesn't count) for years and years. You know the type where you actually spend some time browsing a Hallmark Store for?
Traditionally I've never been a fan of cards (can admire beautifully made ones though) as I found them to cost way more than the value I placed on it. Personally it makes more sense to spend more on the gift than on the packaging.
D used to buy me cards, quirky handmade ones for all occasions until he realized I wasn't really into them so he pretty much has stopped. I have enjoyed getting the odd really cool one as he knows I'm a huge fan of the "Where's Waldo" books.
Last week I found myself at a card store looking for something to accompany a "care package" for the buddy of mine who sent me the gift of the BB app. He is going through some seriously difficult times (which made his gesture to cheer Me up that much more touching). I'm sure he had a good laugh when I shared just what it took for me to be ready to buy that app.
It makes me squirmy to not be able to help solve a problem as I'm such an action person. I'm one of those people who when asked if I'd like to donate to such and such a cause at the check out line or outside of a store or when travelling, the answer is Yes.
If we lived in the same city I could offer to baby sit, take him out for a meal, meet for a drink, have them over for dinner etc. But from this far away, email and the occasional phone call when time zones and schedules match up, end up being our primary mode of communication. The last time we saw each other was 4 years ago. It's tough to not be able to do anything concrete when I can so clearly hear his pain.
So I decided to send a package filled with snacks and treats appropriate for grown ups -- Something to remind him of fun times. I have been tracking the delivery and am thrilled it had finally arrived and been signed for. I hope receiving it brings on a smile even if the contents may not be exactly to his taste. Either way, it's nice receiving something by mail and be reminded that someone out there is thinking of you.
Speaking of which, have you ever tried to find a "Thinking of You" card for a guy recently? And if so, were you able to find anything that wasn't floral or twirly?! Writing an exam seemed easier. I finally settled on the least feminine one they had at a whooping cost of $8.19 taxes in...Inflation has definitely hit the card sector. HE is worth it and I can afford it, but the card itself really wasn't. Next time I'm going the homemade route.
Traditionally I've never been a fan of cards (can admire beautifully made ones though) as I found them to cost way more than the value I placed on it. Personally it makes more sense to spend more on the gift than on the packaging.
D used to buy me cards, quirky handmade ones for all occasions until he realized I wasn't really into them so he pretty much has stopped. I have enjoyed getting the odd really cool one as he knows I'm a huge fan of the "Where's Waldo" books.
Last week I found myself at a card store looking for something to accompany a "care package" for the buddy of mine who sent me the gift of the BB app. He is going through some seriously difficult times (which made his gesture to cheer Me up that much more touching). I'm sure he had a good laugh when I shared just what it took for me to be ready to buy that app.
It makes me squirmy to not be able to help solve a problem as I'm such an action person. I'm one of those people who when asked if I'd like to donate to such and such a cause at the check out line or outside of a store or when travelling, the answer is Yes.
If we lived in the same city I could offer to baby sit, take him out for a meal, meet for a drink, have them over for dinner etc. But from this far away, email and the occasional phone call when time zones and schedules match up, end up being our primary mode of communication. The last time we saw each other was 4 years ago. It's tough to not be able to do anything concrete when I can so clearly hear his pain.
So I decided to send a package filled with snacks and treats appropriate for grown ups -- Something to remind him of fun times. I have been tracking the delivery and am thrilled it had finally arrived and been signed for. I hope receiving it brings on a smile even if the contents may not be exactly to his taste. Either way, it's nice receiving something by mail and be reminded that someone out there is thinking of you.
Speaking of which, have you ever tried to find a "Thinking of You" card for a guy recently? And if so, were you able to find anything that wasn't floral or twirly?! Writing an exam seemed easier. I finally settled on the least feminine one they had at a whooping cost of $8.19 taxes in...Inflation has definitely hit the card sector. HE is worth it and I can afford it, but the card itself really wasn't. Next time I'm going the homemade route.
Monday, November 5, 2012
Goodwill
We awoke to a scraping noise Sunday morning. To our surprise we saw a couple of girls on our sidewalk stuffing leaves back into our paper leaf bags. A vandal decided it would be neat to empty out all 7 of our large full bags of leaves overnight.
It was our neighbour across the street's daughter (B) and friend (who slept over) who were busy fixing the wrong doing.
D flew out of bed and put some clothes on to head outside. They were all done by that point. We were so touched by the thought and act of kindness D asked if it would be OK if he paid them. Their reactions were priceless -- Complete surprise. That said it all.
A few minutes later, B came knocking wanting to return some money as we paid them too much. D told her we didn't and that we appreciated their willingness to help so much we would not be taking any money back. And D trying to be "smart", told her to just keep it and not tell her parents...To which she replied she could not do that!
I was upstairs getting ready for the day and when he told me that, I told him you cannot say things like that! You have just told her to lie to her parents! This is not an adult you are talking to. Kids aren't going to get it as a joke. So off I went across the street to thank B myself and to tell her parents what a great job they are doing.
Turns out my neighbour have had a number of rough incidences recently including a car accident, job transfer to a neighbouring city requiring a long daily commute and a death in the family. Also turned out they have had a number of Halloween decorations stolen over the years.
B and I discussed how often people who do such things may not know what it means to own a home, pay for it for a long time, take pride in it thus not be able to empathize with what it feels to wake up one morning to find a deliberate mess. We revisited the morning payment thing after I thanked her again and suggested she donate what she felt the overpayment portion was to a cause that was meaningful. She liked the idea.
Goes to show you just how human our collective experiences are despite appearances and the happy hellos you may hear from each other every week. This act of goodwill has brought us closer and I am real grateful for it.
It was our neighbour across the street's daughter (B) and friend (who slept over) who were busy fixing the wrong doing.
D flew out of bed and put some clothes on to head outside. They were all done by that point. We were so touched by the thought and act of kindness D asked if it would be OK if he paid them. Their reactions were priceless -- Complete surprise. That said it all.
A few minutes later, B came knocking wanting to return some money as we paid them too much. D told her we didn't and that we appreciated their willingness to help so much we would not be taking any money back. And D trying to be "smart", told her to just keep it and not tell her parents...To which she replied she could not do that!
I was upstairs getting ready for the day and when he told me that, I told him you cannot say things like that! You have just told her to lie to her parents! This is not an adult you are talking to. Kids aren't going to get it as a joke. So off I went across the street to thank B myself and to tell her parents what a great job they are doing.
Turns out my neighbour have had a number of rough incidences recently including a car accident, job transfer to a neighbouring city requiring a long daily commute and a death in the family. Also turned out they have had a number of Halloween decorations stolen over the years.
B and I discussed how often people who do such things may not know what it means to own a home, pay for it for a long time, take pride in it thus not be able to empathize with what it feels to wake up one morning to find a deliberate mess. We revisited the morning payment thing after I thanked her again and suggested she donate what she felt the overpayment portion was to a cause that was meaningful. She liked the idea.
Goes to show you just how human our collective experiences are despite appearances and the happy hellos you may hear from each other every week. This act of goodwill has brought us closer and I am real grateful for it.
Friday, November 2, 2012
Music & Dance
Almost every thing or situation (outside of nature) I can think of can be improved with music.
When working out, music is a must. I choose tunes reflecting my energy level. A couple times I didn't do that and the results were painful. Both involved listening to much faster music than appropriate for my run. My body ran faster to match the beat and the result was I could barely crawl up or go down the stairs for the following 2 days. D had a grand ole time laughing at me. He doesn't need music to run.
Last art class, the instructor, who usually plays classical music during, decided to mix it up with a great album to make sketching still life palatable -- Keane's Hopes And Fears. The first track is one of my favourites. It made all the difference as drawing fruits and vegetables isn't the most exciting thing.
I'm emerging from my "quiet period". The last 7 years have been pretty devoid of music -- Playing, dancing and listening. Too much thinking instead. I've happily explored new areas but missed a lot of old favourites.
You may be hearing of a lot whining shortly as I will be regaining something I haven't done for decades. A couple of my new leads came back and I got the opportunity to take private ballet and ballroom lessons!
It would be just like me to do both but having earned some wisdom over the years, I've chosen ballet. I was doing leg stretches on our staircase in preparation while D (wearing my Afro wig and his Elvis glasses) handed out candy Wed. The kids likely thought I was part of the whole set up.
If a 28 min library Tinkerbell Studio ballet DVD wearing me out is any sign of things to come...it won't be pretty. There is nowhere to hide in a studio full of mirrors wearing leotards.
ps. It's Snowing!!!
When working out, music is a must. I choose tunes reflecting my energy level. A couple times I didn't do that and the results were painful. Both involved listening to much faster music than appropriate for my run. My body ran faster to match the beat and the result was I could barely crawl up or go down the stairs for the following 2 days. D had a grand ole time laughing at me. He doesn't need music to run.
Last art class, the instructor, who usually plays classical music during, decided to mix it up with a great album to make sketching still life palatable -- Keane's Hopes And Fears. The first track is one of my favourites. It made all the difference as drawing fruits and vegetables isn't the most exciting thing.
I'm emerging from my "quiet period". The last 7 years have been pretty devoid of music -- Playing, dancing and listening. Too much thinking instead. I've happily explored new areas but missed a lot of old favourites.
You may be hearing of a lot whining shortly as I will be regaining something I haven't done for decades. A couple of my new leads came back and I got the opportunity to take private ballet and ballroom lessons!
It would be just like me to do both but having earned some wisdom over the years, I've chosen ballet. I was doing leg stretches on our staircase in preparation while D (wearing my Afro wig and his Elvis glasses) handed out candy Wed. The kids likely thought I was part of the whole set up.
If a 28 min library Tinkerbell Studio ballet DVD wearing me out is any sign of things to come...it won't be pretty. There is nowhere to hide in a studio full of mirrors wearing leotards.
ps. It's Snowing!!!
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