A couple of quotes from Martha Beck worth pondering about:
"To liberate our minds enough to begin seeing alternatives, we must realize, prosaic as it seems, that we are physically capable of not doing almost everything we think we have to do"
"The key is to trust your non verbal, felt experience. If a thought causes suffering, it isn't true"
She also encourages, through an exercise, to go through a "to do" list and feel with each item, whether the thought of doing said item creates what she calls a "shackles on" or a "shackles off" sensation ie. whether you feel freer of less free from the action or decision.