I know a number of people who have rushed into relationships so that they can play the "role" of a girlfriend/boyfriend, which eventually leads to bride/groom, leading to mother/father.
I do believe there can be a lot pressure from societal images that push some to take on roles before they are really aware of what it means to them.
It is fun to put on a dream wedding, be the center of attention at bridal or baby showers put on for you... to buy that dream house with the 2 or 3 car garage... to be the first of your friends to be pregnant...
But love/attraction/chemistry aside, what are you really bringing to the table?
- Someone who is at peace with themself?
- Someone who has enough life experience to know that this is what they really want and am ready for?
- Someone who feels like they have something to offer?
- Someone who is happy with their life and want to share it and build on it with someone else?
Or is it more like:
- Someone who is lonely and afraid of being along?
- Someone who would like a "life" but don't know how to go about getting one on their own?
- Someone who doesn't want to work and want to be taken care of?
- Someone who want to have kids to compensate for their difficult childhood?
- Someone looking to escape from their life at home?
The most inspiring couples I know are ones where both persons are their own person and can function well independently.
- Often they have some separate interests so that there are sharing of ideas and passions.
- Each person is fabulous in their own right so that 1 + 1 = more than 2.
- They have chosen to be in a relationship to enhance who they already are.
- They have chosen to create and build a uniquely combined life where neither loses themselves in the process.
Ah, something to inspire to!