As I was preparing for this morning's post, I received a call from my girlfriend who is a sales manager for one of the largest home builders in my area. She was distraught.
The second in command of her company hung himself yesterday. He was found by his assistant in the basement of the office building. This is a 45 yr old man with a stay a home wife and children under the age of 10.
The company just won an award and posted record sales this year.
Everyone in the office was detained by the police and forensic squad for the entire day for questioning and grief counselling. The Christmas cocktail party that was supposed to have been last night was obviously cancelled.
There is a lot of speculation as to why? Was it the job? The company has recently downsized a number of its divisions. Was he ill? A number of people felt he hadn't looked like himself lately. Was it personal? They didn't know.
What would drive someone who outwardly lived such a successful life and seemingly had so much to live for kill himself?
Suicide can be interpreted as the ultimate "escape". Barring any mental illness, it is usually premeditated.
My girlfriend and her colleagues felt that one lesson they will take away from this tragedy is that no job, no relationship or anything is worth getting yourself to a place where you have given up all hope for life.
So, if your outward side doesn't match your inward side, maybe it is time to question that and do something about it.
My thoughts go out to his loved ones.