I was in line the other day, waiting to check out, when I witnessed a conversation that made me sad.
It was an older lady (guessing late 70's) describing her current experiences at home. She suffered multiple compression fractures to her spine at her cottage while doing some outdoor work. Had been active her whole life. And since then, had not been able to enjoy doing much and spends the majority of time going to appointments to help manage the pain.
The sad part of the story was her description of how her husband was still expecting her to do everything as if she was not hurt. "He's used to having everything done for him.". And the act of cooking absolutely kills her now.
I can understand generational differences up to a point. But where is the humanity? How many of us are able to stand by and witness suffering and not be moved to do something to help? And we are talking about his spouse! I was appalled. The pain, hurt and exhaustion was apparent on her face.
Even though I knew I was only hearing one side of the story, the angry woman in me immediately thinks about what I would do in that instance if everything I heard was true. Kicking the guy out to the curb comes to mind pretty quick. And that separation would cost him too. I'd be hiring some at home help until I got better.
It's frequently the tough times that show true colours and commitment. It would be even sadder if she had felt all along that she was part of a wonderful marriage. Could you be in a marriage that long and have no hint or idea that could happen? Or do you hold onto the hope that they would step up if and when something serious happens?